TRANSFORMING

THE SHAME TRIANGLE

 

BREAK THE LOOP OF SELF-CRITICISM, 
COLLAPSE + AVOIDANCE 
 
COME HOME TO YOUR SELF. 
 
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IF YOU'VE EVER FELT STUCK INSIDE THE SAME PAINFUL PATTERNS...

 

THIS COURSE IS FOR YOU

 

Most people come to growth work because they feel a gap between where they are and where they long to be.

They want to heal old wounds, deepen relationships, feel more at home in themselves, finally live with clarity, ease, and purpose.

And yet—no matter how much insight they gain, no matter how many tools they collect—
something keeps getting in the way.

Inside, they find the same exhausting cycle:

A PART THAT ATTACKS OR JUDGES.
 
A PART THAT COLLAPSES OR INTERNALIZES THE PAIN.
 
A PART THAT AVOIDS, PERFORMS, NUMBS, DISTRACTS OR DISAPPEARS.
 

This is the Shame Triangle—a powerful inner geometry of parts that keeps us looping in self-criticism, unworthiness, and survival mode.

And once you can see it clearly, you can transform it.

This 8-week course is a self-paced, immersive journey based on Jessica Fern and David Cooley’s new book, Transforming the Shame Triangle. Through teaching, guided practices, demos, and Q&A, you’ll learn how to shift out of the Shame Triangle and into the Self-Love Triangle, where your inner Critic becomes an Inner Coach, Shame becomes emotional wisdom, and Escapers become Inner Nurturers.

 

THIS IS NOT "SELF HELP" 

THIS IS SELF - LED TRANSFORMATION

BY THE END OF THIS COURSE YOU WILL...

+ Understand how your inner system actually works
+ Know your Shame Triangle intimately
+ Unblend from critical, collapsed, or avoidant parts
+ Build a steady relationship with Self-energy
+ Transform the Inner Critic into a supportive Inner Coach
+ Heal Shame at its roots—not just manage it
+ Work compassionately with your Escaper parts
+ Release legacy burdens + internalized messages you inherited
+ Integrate the Self-Love Triangle as a new way of living
+ Feel more authentic, grounded, open, and whole

 

This course will help you live what you’ve been learning, instead of looping in old patterns.

I'M READY

YOUR 8 MODULE

COURSE JOURNEY 

MODULE 1

SHAME TRIANGLE:

LEARNING THE LANDSCAPE

Discover why insight and effort aren’t enough, how inner contradictions arise, and how the Shame Triangle becomes the hidden architecture of our inner struggle. Learn the language of parts, the seeds of multiplicity across cultures, and the origins of the Drama Triangle.

 

MODULE 2

THE SELF + UNBLENDING 

Develop a lived sense of Self-energy–your inner source of compassion, clarity, and calm. Learn how to un-blend from parts in real time so you can relate to them instead of from them. Learn the Self-Centered Model.

 

MODULE 3

GETTING TO KNOW YOUR SHAME TRIANGLE

Map your unique Shame Triangle. Get to know your Inner Critic, Shame Part, and Escaper Parts; learn how they impact you and your life. Start to externalize these parts.

MODULE 4

TRANSFORMING THE INNER CRITIC 

Learn about the Shame Triangle mindsets that keep you stuck. Experience a pre-recorded demo of the Inner Critic transforming into an Inner Coach and be guided through the Self LOVE U process for your Inner Critic.

MODULE 5

TRANSFORMING SHAME

Learn about shame stories versus shame as a feeling. Experience a pre-recorded demo with someone’s Shame part and be guided through the Self LOVE U process so your Shame can be cared for.

MODULE 6

TRANSFORMING

THE ESCAPERS 

Learn about the Escapers and nervous system dysregulation. Experience a pre-recorded demo of your Escaper parts and transform them into Inner Nurturers. Be guided through the Self LOVE U process.

MODULE 7

SHAME TRIANGLE: LEGACY BURDENS + INHERITANCE

Explore when your Shame Triangle parts hold legacy burdens from your family, cultural, or identity group. Witness a pre-recorded legacy unburdening and be guided through releasing your inherited burdens, beliefs, internalized messages, and patterns that aren’t yours.

MODULE 8

INTEGRATION:

THE SELF LOVE TRIANGLE

 

You will be guided through an inner restorative/meditation process with each of your Shame Triangle parts in order to further support their transformation into the Self-Love Triangle.

 

BEGIN YOUR TRANSFORMATION 

This course is for anyone who wants to grow, heal, and reclaim their inner freedom—whether you’re brand-new to parts work or a longtime practitioner seeking deeper personal transformation.

PRE-REGISTRATION PRICING

$329

(Course Launch November 2026)

  • Immediate access to your PDF copy of Transforming the Shame Triangle book to support your journey
  • 8 Pre-recorded Sessions with Jessica + Dave
  • Guided practices +  meditations
  • Pre-recorded demos + experiential learning
  • Worksheets, reflection prompts + integration tools
  • Community connection + shared learning
  • Bonus materials
  • Lifetime Access to your course materials
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"This course made me softer, more tolerant, and more gracious — both toward myself and toward others. It made me realize how differently people experience the same situation, just because we carry different inner worlds."

"Now I have a new angle on these tools, and I'm already incorporating them into other work I'm doing. I really worked with two of my parts, and they've evolved in genuinely empowering ways."

"Since taking this course, I'm more aware of the moments when I'm in Self, and I'm less afraid of my inner critic and shame parts. I'm way more curious about my parts, which feels empowering."

PARTICIPANTS WILL RECEIVE A DIGITAL COPY OF TRANSFORMING THE SHAME TRIANGLE!

PRAISE FOR 
TRANSFORMING THE
SHAME TRIANGLE

 

"If you are a seeker of personal growth and transformative practices, I highly recommend this book. Authors Jessica Fern and David Cooley brilliantly weave their knowledge and wisdom into a clear discussion on the complexity of our inner worlds. They provide comprehensive guidance for the reader to delve into deep self-understanding through self-reflection practices, as well as accessible yet profound compassionate practices for the mind, heart, and body to integrate newer ways of being. "

____Teresa Johnson 

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MEET YOUR COURSE FACILITATORS

 Jessica Fern is a best-selling author and integrative therapist with over 25 years of experience supporting relational and personal transformation. Her work draws on conflict transformation, trauma therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic and narrative approaches, attachment theory, and spiritual and shamanic counseling traditions.

She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure, Polywise, and her newest book, Transforming the Shame Triangle. Through her private practice and teaching, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships to help them move beyond reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and unresolved trauma—supporting greater self-leadership, emotional resilience, and intimacy in life and love.

Learn more at JessicaFern.com

David Cooley is a Restorative Justice practitioner, facilitator, and trainer whose work focuses on transforming conflict into connection through dialogue, accountability, and repair. His professional roots are in Restorative Justice, where he facilitated restorative circles and supported individuals in addressing interpersonal harm outside of adversarial legal systems. His professional training includes working with victims of crime, trauma-informed care, cultural and gender sensitivity, nonviolent communication, and cultural brokering.

David is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations (RRC) model, an integrative process that adapts restorative principles for use in intimate relationships. Informed by his training in mindfulness-based practices, narrative therapy, somatic work, IFS, and attachment theory, the RRC process addresses conflict at the levels of communication, embodiment, and meaning-making. In his private practice, David works with individuals and partners seeking healthier ways to navigate relational strain, supporting the development of emotional literacy, nervous system regulation, accountability, and trust so that conflict can become a pathway to deeper safety and connection

Learn more at RestorativeRelationship.com

"Jess had a light way of presenting heavy material like shame — validating and normalizing it without making it feel clinical.  Dave held the structure so all the emotions and stories had a place to land. A wonderful combination, the two of them"